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At Least the Promise is Here February 27, 2009

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Spring.  It’s getting close, I can feel it.  I don’t think winter is quite finished with NY yet, but soon.  I love the first days of spring.  Not because of the budding trees, flowers, etc, but just because I hate the winter, and spring means it’s almost summer.  Yanno when you have those conversations with people, and everyone who lives in a 4-season climate winds up agreeing they would miss the seasons?  Not me.  I would happily give up winter, fall, and spring to live somewhere it’s summer year round.  Give me the sun, warmth, the beach, and internet access, I’m done.  


I’m feeling better this afternoon, thanks all!  Life is what it is, and we have to just keep moving forward.  Besides, Papa brought home dill pickle flavored potato chips for me last night, how can I wallow? 😉

Got the lab results on the girl’s bloodwork, all is good.  🙂  The middle guy has to work on an essay to bring with him to the simulated school day, about the most important thing he does each day.  A thought provoking question, I would be hard pressed to come up with one answer, how about you?


I didn’t write yesterday, but realized I don’t have to beat myself up about it, there’s still the rest of today and the weekend.  5 days a week does not have to mean Mon-Fri.  Thankfully, because I was never meant to be a 9-5er.  


The skunk cleaner shrimp molted again last night–I’ll have to look that up, I don’t think she should molt so frequently.  And yes, I said she, because today I saw she’s carrying eggs.  I’m sure they’ll wind up to be a tasty snack for the fishies. 😛  Neither of the two cleaner shrimp have actually cleaned any fish yet, but the fire shrimp actually took a ride on the tang yesterday evening.  I’m not sure Gloria (the glorious yellow tang) was  happy, but Sadie the fire shrimp had a grand time. 😀  


Best of all?  It’s almost Friday Night Madness! 🙂  


Happy Friday, everyone! 

Thanks for reading,



Take Another Little Piece of My Heart Now, February 26, 2009

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Reset the clock on waiting to find out about the next step of the application process for the boy, it turns out someone was sick and they didn’t send out the letters until yesterday. 

*******We got the letter.  He has been invited to go in for the next step in the application process, a simulated school day.**** It’s a little more than a week from now, then we’ll wait to hear if he’s invited for a personal interview…


Feeling a bit sad and self pitying today. 


Mama had to go to the girl’s school this morning.  No, no phone call from the school nurse, a “publishing party” that all the parents are invited to.  The girl had clearly worked very hard on her piece.  Not a surprise, she always works really hard. But when you walk down the hall her classroom is on, there’s written work on the walls from all of her classmates, though not hers. Between meds, neurocrud, and whatever mystery is the root cause of her neuro crud, she struggles, and it can be seen clearly in the difference btw her work and that of her classmates.  


Parent teacher conferences will be coming up next month.  Her teacher caught me on the side of the room and asked if I would mind if she scheduled our conference on a different day.  Yanno, because we have so much to talk about.  I’m certain the conversation will include her recommendation for testing/evaluations.  I knew this was coming.  I know it would be irresponsible on the part of the teacher if she didn’t approach this.  I know it’s best for the girl to get this ball rolling, so she can have opportunities to be successful in school, and feel good about herself and her work, even open the door to her reaching her potential.  But whatever her potential is, it isn’t what it was when she was a toddler, and that hurts.  When she was two, we had every reason to think she was on  a similar path as her big brothers.  


I am blessed with two very gifted boys, and the girl has her own gifts, but hers are different, and not ones that are quickly valued in casual conversation with other parents on the “blacktop,” or even by our society in general.  I tell myself to be quiet and be grateful, things could be much worse, and her life could be much harder.  Sometimes that lecture doesn’t work, and I can’t help but think about the woulda/shoulda/couldas, and that she’s already got a life more difficult than most children on the playground.   


Hopefully this new seizure control we’re seeing at this dose of medication will hold, and the control will be enough to balance out the cognitive slowing caused by the med.  In the meantime I’ll remind myself that she’s a perfectly beautiful balance of strong and sweet, and Mr Putter and Tabby are perfectly lovely books to read, even for the 400th time, even if she doesn’t remember reading them before. 


So I’m channeling Janis Joplin today.  A little piece of my heart broke off in that classroom this morning, but when I got back for the meeting, I’m going to show them this Mama can be tough. 😛


What Day Is It, Anyway? February 25, 2009

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You know those days when you keep forgetting what day of the week it actually is?  Usually this happens to me on Mondays, and I’m convinced it’s Friday. 😛  Today I keep thinking it’s Tuesday, but luckily, it isn’t.  Yay!  Wednesday!!


We didn’t receive the letter about the middle guy’s school yet. 😦  Hoping for today.  If not, I’ll call the school tomorrow to make sure it wasn’t lost in transition.  I know I wrote our new address on the application, but my oldest went there, so maybe they sent it to the old address??  I’ve got to call Dr Neurocrud’s office about lab results for the girl tomorrow anyway, so I’ll just plan for an hour to make official phone calls.  


Mama’s been busy this morning.  Papa and I were trying to figure out the new protein skimmer for the tank.  Eventually we’ll get it.  I had to run to the grocery store, there was literally nothing in this house for dinner.  Now I’ve got raviolis in the freezer and doggie gumbo simmering on the stove.  Poor dog had a very skimpy portion left for breakfast today, so I supplemented with a whole can of sardines.  Ewww.  Anyone want to accept stinky slobbery kisses for the rest of the day? 😉  


Oh, yeah, today was the first day for the 500 in 40.  I did it!!!!!!!   A little over 500 words.  They aren’t the best words, and they’ll be reworked many times over, but I got started.  Yippee!!!  I also looked over what I already had, so I’ve got a project for tonight.  I like what’s there, but there’s much tightening to do. Writing is funny that way.  You think your work is as polished as much as possible, but then look at it a few weeks/months/years(!) later, and plenty will jump out at you.   This is the routine I used to use; write in the morning, and in the afternoon or evening do some edits of work from the day before.  The day before, the year before, close enough, right? 😛  


It’s kind of like working out, if you stop for long enough, you remember your old routine, but can’t just jump back into 50 sit ups a day.  There was a time when 750-1000 words was an average day for me.  I’ll get back there, but these 500 were rough going–and that includes having been thinking about this scene for months now.  I think I’m more afraid of tomorrow than I was of today.  


Happy Wednesday, everyone!



Write Turn Ahead February 24, 2009

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Every so often I feel a burning need to check out the writer’s reference books in Barnes and Noble, and pick up a  new book on writing.  Most turn out to be disappointing, but there are some that speak to me, for whatever reason.  I just found one of those, The Art and Craft of Storytelling, by Nancy Lamb.  A good blend of craft and inspiration, with a healthy dose of nudging. 😉  


Perfect timing, yesterday I found a new blog here on wordpress,  #mce_temp_url#.  Sorry, I can’t quite figure out how to give the links a title.  The author of the blog has decided that for Lent (begins tomorrow, Feb 25), she will write at least 500 words a day, at least 5 days a week, for 40 days.  Sounds good for the soul to me, so I’ve decided I’m going to try.  Yikes!  Because I’m rusty, I won’t hold myself to 500 words a day, but I will apply butt to chair and Mac to lap, and produce something every day.  


Last week I had a conversation with a friend who is a playwrite; she recently completed a play she was working on for ten years.  We talked a bit about growing and changing with time and events as people, and how it can effect and  shape us as writers, without it meaning we have to walk away from a WIP that we believe has value.  That’s what I walked away with, she could easily have walked away thinking Mama has finally lost it. 😛  


So.  Over the course of this afternoon/evening I will dig out my notes and research, and read over what I’ve got so far.  Tomorrow I will open Word, and click on the file I haven’t had the nerve to click on in too long.  I’m nervous.  I’m excited.  It’s like a date, only better–and I don’t think Papa will object, either. 🙂


On other fronts the girl made it through the whole day yesterday, and no calls from the nurse so far today. 🙂  Middle guy is home sick today.  Not terribly ill, but glassy eyed enough for it to seem prudent to keep him home. No letter in the mail yesterday about the boy, please, please, please let it be there today.  I just want to know already, are we moving forward with this process or not?  The boy, bless his heart, is very adaptable, and not showing the least bit of concern one way or the other.  

Thanks for reading,



Holding My Breath Week February 23, 2009

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It’s that time of year where I start waiting anxiously for the warmer weather.  Every day I wake up thinking it must be warmer today, but no.  still cold.  


Kiddos are back to school this week, and I’m praying this increase holds for the girl, and she can have another good week where she stays in school all day–every day. 🙂  


I’m expecting to hear about whether or not the little (middle) guy is being invited for the second round of the admissions process today or tomorrow.  I hoped there would be a letter in the mail Saturday.  That would have been early, but ya never know.  Nope, nothing but a bill and a plea for money from the Museum of Natural History. 


Mama went shopping this weekend.  No clothing, sorry gals, only one size fits all coral frags and a new shrimp.  I haven’t been able to get a photo of the shrimp yet, she moves too quickly, and my camera is not that good.  😛  The tank is filling in nicely.  Much as I love watching it, nothing is better than when something catches one of the kid’s eyes, and they get excited.  




OK, the first one isn’t new, it’s the frogspawn I got a few weeks ago–but it is cool.  🙂  The next two are zoa frags.  Zoas come in many different color morphs, all have ridiculous names; I prefer to stick with the scientific names, yanno, “the purple ones, the green ones…” 😉  


I hope all are having a good start to the week, and that I stop holding my breath before I turn blue.


Friday, yippee!!! February 20, 2009

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It’s that time again, almost Friday Night Madness.  🙂


I’m not feeling especially reflective this evening.  No deep thoughts or burning questions that must be asked. 😉  


Yesterday afternoon/evening a plastic box fell off of the girl’s dresser, hit her in the head leaving a cut and bump, but NO szs resulted!  Whee!!!  


It’s been a long week, but the first time in a long time, I’m not meaning that in a negative way.  The girl’s been reasonably good, blood draw accomplished with no trauma, and playdates galore.  Somewhere in this weekend I will get laundry done, and the grocery store…productive isn’t glamorous, now is it?


But for tonight, I’ll get to spend a little time with a good friend, laugh, eat my veggie burger just the way I like it, and enjoy our favorite waitress, the Albanian queen who calls me cousin. 🙂 


Happy Friday, everyone,



Scattered this Week February 19, 2009

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The kids have been on mid-winter break this week.  I always find this break to be so necessary for all, and yet it didn’t exist when I was in elementary school.  Everyone is tired, sick of cold weather and short days.  Something else that didn’t exist when I was a kid–playdates.  I understand how they came to exist, parents don’t just let their kids out the door anymore, “Be home by dinner.”  And most mothers are working, so they aren’t getting together with friends for lunch or coffee with kids in tow.  But when did playdates start?  


My idea of a perfect use of this week would be to sleep in, rest, read, write, play some board games with the kids, and catch up on laundry.  Would ya believe the kids don’t have the same idea of a perfect week?  So we’re having playdates.  On Sunday, a long time friend of mine came over for the afternoon and evening with her husband and children.  Monday, Grand-Mama came over.  Tuesday, a friend to both of my younger two came over and played.  Wednesday, up and out early for a blood draw for the girl, and then playdates for both kids came over for the day.  Today is supposed to be another double playdate at one of those paint your own pottery places.  


I’m glad the kids are having fun and being social,especially the girl.  The social aspect of school has not been a rip roaring success for her.  But this all means I will once again be scrambling to get the laundry done before we’re completely out of clean clothes.  


I like to talk to friends/relatives who don’t have children, and hear what they do on days off.  They sleep in, go for brunch, send the laundry out, and then they nap.  Does that sound perfect to me?  Not really.  Sleeping in, yes.  Go for brunch, mmmm.  Send the laundry out?  Not so much.  Even though I hate to do the laundry, I’m too neurotic to send it out.  I’m particular about how things are washed, and I hate to shop, so I like my clothes to last a loooong time.  Napping?  I don’t think I could if there wasn’t a raging fever involved.  


So, not the week of my dreams, but nice to have a break from pick-ups and drop-offs, school nurses, and daily homework torture.  Not to mention extra snuggle time with my very snuggly kiddos.  🙂